This blog post is about why you should be a better person in a relationship.
We are often told,’ if you love me, you will accept me for what I am’. While there is truth to that, we all have our faults.
And we are not as much of an island as we think we are. When we are in a relationship, the basic purpose is to give our loved one the best, most loving, caring experience they can have.
It is critical to know: our relationship with ourselves defines our relationship with our partner. If we are harsh and critical ourselves, our partner will receive the harshness or criticism. If we are impatient and unforgiving, our partner will experience the impatience and judgement.
Its not even the interpersonal relationship outside you that I am speaking of. Inside you. Do you have spaces, quiet, peace? Do you know what feels like? If you don’t, ask. A friend will demonstrate, or I will.
But you haven’t said anything explicitly to your partner, you say.
But ah, say I. You need to make yourself better because your beloved lives in you.